Following up to my previous article, titled: The Lust After Agape: Misconceptions Concerning The Nature And Expression Of Intimacy Part 1, it is now that I give Part 2, sharing my views on how the art of intimacy is expressed as a demonstration of love in its most essential form. Love and its principal ambassador, intimacy, is such a complex subject for discussion---involving something so arcane to the soul that no other word but essence will suffice in attempting to explain the source of its expression, and being generated often and largely through the emotions, and thus the psychic sense of feeling, that I must emphasize that my views are not for those dominated by the intellectual side of their mind. Rather, this article and the points of view to be presented herein are for those who have experienced, are experiencing, and or seek to experience the reality of love and intimacy on a spiritual level, in their own life, as a means of establishing a greater understanding of the dynamic of relationships, and accessing deeper and more advanced levels of spirituality as a whole. Embarking on such a journey to know with certainty the reality of love and intimacy requires a willingness to experience vulnerability---not necessarily with anything external, but internal---going into the dark depths of the subconscious mind, and facing those conditions of an unpleasant nature which are surely stored there, and determining if you are going to be courageous enough to work through those conditions; understanding why they are there, learning how to remove them and replace them with more conducive ones, and ultimately, DOING IT. However, let me say this to the reader of this article who perhaps was under the impression that this article was to be an essay on how one ego praises another, you know, the whole, "If he/she cant handle my "craziness" he/she is not strong enough for my love"--- This essay is in no way about feeding the human desire for comfort and continual validation through the agent of another's human ego in search for a false remedy to human insecurity. More so, my views are directed towards the practice of applying alchemical formulas intended for self realization--- through magical experimentation, and the eventual accessing/remembering/reactivating of self-knowing through the art and expression of intimacy in ones own consciousness, as from this central point, all outward demonstrations of love and intimacy are made truly authentic. The majority of my inspiration for writing this derives from my own personal experience with relationships in general, so bear in mind with patience that these views combine my personal experience with study of others along with spiritual archetypes in mythology.
The reader of this so far has at least once asked them-self what is the meaning of this word, Philautia? As with part 1, utilizing Agape (Unconditional Love for Another) I have drawn upon the 6 types of love according the the so called Greeks---not as a standard, but simply as a model which corresponds with the ideas and feelings I hold concerning the dynamic of love, intimacy, and relationships. This essay concerns Philautia then, last of the Greek types of love, meaning Unconditional Love for Self, being to the occultist and spiritual practitioner of all advanced schools, the truly highest form of love there is. Many of the descriptions about this word give a moral perspective regarding what self-love means, injecting an impression that its context relates to the ego, or personality of the human side of consciousness, but this is a veil to the truth. Ego as the occultist understands it, is not the self---not even close---it is what may as well be called the false "Self" actually, because its sense of being is contingent upon its "need" to feel secure by external aides. The meaning of ego, is, 'I', i.e., Intellect---that aspect of the brain which deals exclusively in measurement of physically apparent phenomena, and thus excluding any consideration of the spiritual, which is obviously non-measurable and based in experience rather than speculation. All spiritual beings require certain physical aids to assist them on their path to Self-Actualization, but the difference between the ego and the spirit, is that the spirit is satisfied even without the physical aid, whereas the ego cannot live without it. Philautia is love for ones own essence, in the same way that Shiva's love for Shakti is his love for his own essence. It is a love which turns in on itself, like the ouroboros snake which swallows its own tale. It is the love which precedes the Ultimate Return to the realm of Reality---which is the aim of the Magician. Social politics, social media, and of all, theological dogma have all attempted to make the love of self seem a practice given into by the sick and diseased, but as we know, they are in no position to speak of mental health, for obvious reasons, yet mainly, they lack self-love.
This sort of love makes a person a typically pleasant being to be around, because when love for the self is attained, a radiance of healing energy is emanating constantly when that person is in the atmosphere, and people will be drawn to them to benefit from that frequency. Philautia love develops ones emotional and psychological maturity in such a way that when it comes to attracting a significant other, a deep friendship-- be it romantic or otherwise--, exclusive or not, they are now prepared to receive the love of another having accessed or in the direct process of accessing the same sort of love within themselves, as this is the only bond of love which does not exclude the law of reciprocity. Everybody, whether consciously, or subconsciously, seeks to know the secret to the attainment of that state of consciousness wherein no longer is there an inclination to look externally for ones sense of fulfillment, emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually. I know this is true because thousands of people visit psychics and hypnotists, seeking to receive a tip on how they might fix a particular issue they are dealing with. They seek advice from such persons because they feel that they have in some way accessed this state of knowing they themselves are subconsciously seeking. This essay however intends to provide more than a tip, but an entire framework for going beyond the inclination to seek externally for that which is abundantly present within the very being that is you, effectively affirming the desire and will to attain mastery of self on the path of spirituality.
Thankfully, this practice is very, very simple. When it is decided that your desire for something is certain, say an intimate lover(not an "intimate fucker"), the energy for such is set in motion in mind and settled in body. That means, when someone says they seek love, knowing that nothing exists outside of them-self, they will move to harmonize the energy of love inside of them-self by learning the nature of love without its conditions, and viewing love as a formula, blending psychologically, mentally and emotionally with this desire, and thus be loved from within, intimately. As I said in my last article, intimacy means intense nearness, but another definition which I learned from my mother recently is, In-To-Me-See, and that is fitting, because it is into your self which you, and me, are seeking to see, that an acquaintance with the deepest aspect of being may be brought to the surface to operate in ones life tranformatively. When one has taken what they desire, and given it life by seeing, feeling, and imagining that it is already theirs on an astral level, they have indeed acquired the object of their desire, and it is only a matter of "time' before a physical correspondence to this astral form manifests itself in the magicians life. The whole work of Hermetic Alchemy is to create a scenario in your mind relative to your expressed desire, and begin living as if that desire is a reality to which you are experiencing each moment. Practicing this, simply as it is, is what hermetic alchemy is teaching: the usage of formulas intended to activate deeper levels of consciousness and in this case, love, most certainly being a deeper, if not the deepest level of consciousness. Self love is of real importance to the Gnositc if any real progress is going to be made in life, let alone spirituality. Without self love, one is unable to establish mutually beneficial relationships with others, because internally there is a belief of lack, and where there is lack, there is slack---the absent-ness that leaves relationships void of reciprocity. For myself, it wasnt until I truly began to see myself as complete, that I begin to attract the type of relationships that I had been consciously seeking. Before that, because I was not living in a way that demonstrated that I truly understood what I claimed to be seeking, I attracted people who were decent individuals, but had nothing of substance to add to my life, other than another case for me to study, and I can satisfy the bulk of that need with mythology. When I began to walk in the experience of my mental affirmations, I began to receive the type of relationships I had been seeking, and these relationships were and are none other than relationships with manifestations of myself in another spiritual being having a human experience.
I and the intimates in my life, do not identify as human, by any means whatsoever. Seeing the human form as the lowest aspect of being, it is really no point to go into that right now, as all Gnostics know, that Self, God, Reality, Essence, Source etc, is One entity, and Man is no different. Spirituality from the view of the Magician is about rising above humanity by shifting ones consciousness from subject to sovereign, in mind. The only subject, is the heart unto love, in submission to its fragrant force. It is really not a question of how to be intimate, or finding the words, and actions to show or share intimacy. Intimacy comes naturally the greater one delves into the love of their own divine self. You see, every woman is seeking Shiva/Osiris, and every man is seeking Shakti/Isis. In other words, every soul seeks its essence, but the way in which this pursuit has been and continues to be gone about is missing of the only method capable of completing that search. It would seem redundant to those who have seen it written about, or spoken about so often, but I don't believe it can be said enough: there is no love unless it is internal first. It is only an illusion of love, a disguise for attachment, which is the exact antithesis to true love of the self, when self love is not had within. Shiva did not seek love in the world. He knew that love was within him at all times, and so he meditated night and day, conjuring constantly the Kundalini fire subsisting at his spine to be in the intimate presence of his sacred consort, lover and friend, Shakti, who was to him, a living force, though invisible to the physical world. This deep understanding had by Shiva allowed for him to receive a physical manifestation of Shakti in the form of the woman Parvati, who was perfect in her devotion to yoga and meditation, thus providing not a distraction for the perfect Yogi/Master Magician that is Shiva, but a friend and aid along the path; a physical manifestation of the love that was already recognized on an immaterial level. Shiva was the best thing in all of existence to Parvati. He knew how to touch her heart, and her soul, but how, since he was an ascetic? Because he did it to himself through his relationship with Shakti, the immaterial Kundalini Goddess who lives within spine. But heres the thing also, one who has achieved this state of self love does not have the same desires or anxieties for physical unity as others do. That is not to say that they dont, but when such manifestations are absent, there is no heaviness of heart, as the overwhelming force of love that is accessed within provides the interim championship belt which satisfies the top contender, as with this interim belt, immanence of a greater belt is known to be approaching as the next phase of attraction. There is no wanting for the Magician, as everything which is desired is trusted to be acquired. Unlike a religionist who prays---petitions to an energy perceived to be external, in hopes that their request will be granted, the Magician subscribes to no such notion. To the Magician, The All Is Mind, And The Universe Is Mental, as the Kybalion puts it so powerfully. There is no wanting that is not already had. There is no desire which is not already acquired. There is no level in consciousness which is not already accessed, and so forth. It is a conflict of interest to express desire for something, yet hold fear or feelings of unworthiness regarding the attiainment thereof. That is the case for most who petition to what they perceive to be a power greater than they. For the Magician however, though the play of lover and beloved may be utilized as a ploy to keep the ego ignorant of the heart and minds designs, the understanding remains that it is none other than the mind of the one who wills that is bringing forth whatever is called upon. For many however, this is not the case. They are looking for someone to tie their shoes, yet they have yet to learn how to tie there own, which means they also cannot tie anyone elses shoes. That is to say they are looking for someone to love them, or looking to love someone, when they have yet to fulfil the first requirement: love of the self. The process towards consciously experiencing the reality which is always present, is called remembering, because Reality is existing at every moment, without anyone seeking it or even knowing it is operating in this way. And Love in its most essential form, that of Philautia is the expression of that Reality, which is why those not within its realm are helpless in attempting to comprehend the mentality of one who is. A lover of the self to such a person is weird, strange, a lunatic, and other synonymous terms. A lover of the self to such a person is indeed weird, strange, a lunatic. And those persons are correct in identifying the mystical characterics of the self-lover as such, but they are ignorant to believe such labels are anything less than praiseworthy. Weird means having power to control destiny/time, strange meaning foreign as in otherworldy, and lunatic meaning a person influenced by the magnetic energy of the moon, i.e. divine feminine energy---all correct. Self love is about letting go of all of the conditions which limit the infinite expression of self, and reclining into the deepest part of ones self, which the Magicians and Sufis in particular, call Essence, and learning to be at peace with that silence. I cannot say whether it is easy or not, because that is to be determined by the heart of each individual who endeavors to work towards the Gnosis. What I can and will say is that learning to love oneself is the best thing anyone can do for themself, as this sets the stage for all other enjoyments in the spiritual and material life. It is a truly fulfilling place to be--- and the highest of all types of loves is not contingent upon a pair. Consider if you have not already, some of the ideas and practices I have shared in this essay, and see if you do not begin to experience greater levels of peace in your own skin. I am not speaking of a mere self-esteem boost, though such will naturally come as a part of this; I am speaking of a feeling of transcendence, which radiates from the heart all around you, so much so that confidence and contenment become very familiar words to you. And still, once this stage in consciousness is reached, let it not be assumed that the work is over. Loving oneself, like any relationship, is an ongoing process. It does not stop even after death, for the spiritual worlds beyond this one are finer and much more receptive to the frequency of love and intimacy than this one. Since the love of self emulates the Reality--The Eternity itself, it must go on, forever. I for one plan to continue in this way, seeing no other way worthy of the name. Understanding Philautia---True and Divine Self(Essential) Love grants knowledge concerning the art and expression of intimacy, as what is known for self, is known for others. Love yourself without condition, and the your experience in consciousness will flourish.